My girlfriend sleeps with other men but it’s not cheating — it was my idea

nypost.com:

“Love Don’t Judge.”The 36-year-old said he and Zoe, 31, had only been dating for a few months when he suggested she start having sex with other men. “When agreed to it, I was happy, because I’d been cheated on [before], so I was quite happy to find someone who wasn’t gonna cheat back,” Matt told the program.

The unconventional arrangement helped eliminate the paranoia that had permeated the jilted Brit’s previous relationships while unlocking new levels of trust, intimacy and communication with Zoe.

Zoe’s raunchy sex sessions took place while Matt was at work, but that didn’t mean he had to miss out on the fun. He proposed that Zoe record her flings with the male strangers, a kinky request to which she agreed. “You’d send me pictures, videos,” Matt recalled while speaking to Zoe. “I ended up being involved in it [virtually]… It was like my own amateur porn.”Matt told the program that all of Zoe’s sex partners were “young” and “good-looking” and admits that it can cause him to feel some jealousy. “It’s quite a nice feeling, even though it’s jealousy,” he explained.” Because at the end of the day you know you’re included, and she’s coming home to me.”Soon after she began having sex with strangers, Zoe suggested that her boyfriend also begin sleeping with other women — but a shy Matt said he was reluctant to do so. “I never wanted to sleep with anyone else,” he told Zoe. “[But] you wanted to see me do it.”He eventually agreed, and after four years the couple is still in their quasi open-relationship, although they have strict rules.

The couple can’t keep secrets from one another and are allowed to block the other from sleeping with any particular person they don’t like.