Jada Pinkett Smith Reveals Lack of Protection Is ‘Biggest Wound’ That Comes Out In Her Relationships

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Jada Pinkett Smith is opening up about a common thread she’s found in her relationships. In this exclusive clip from Wednesday’s “Red Table Talk,” Pinkett Smith and her co-hosts, Willow Smith and Adrienne “Gammy” Banfield-Norris sit down with Mother Hunger author Kelly McDaniel for a conversation on mother-daughter dynamics, where Pinkett Smith reveals that the “biggest wound” that comes out most in her personal relationships is a lack of protection. “My thing was, just, not having protection.

That’s my biggest wound that comes out in all my relationships,” Pinkett Smith says. “And I’ve looked for [the] craziest kind of protection, and I don’t have a really good sense of what’s safe and what’s not.” READ MORE: Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith & Adrienne Banfield Norris Tease Star-Studded ‘Red Table Talk’ Season 5 She adds, “I’m either extremely protective or extremely defensive.” It’s something that Banfield-Norris believes started when her mother — a figure of safety and security for Pinkett Smith — died when “The Matrix” actress was in middle school. “And I’ll tell you why.

The environment. It was my addiction. She found her security through my mother,” Banfield-Norris explains. “But, when Mommy died, that’s when my addiction really took off.” “She died when I was still in middle school, you know, 11, 12 years old,” Pinkett Smith notes.

It was a pivotal moment for the whole family, and impacted Pinkett Smith’s sense of security going forward. “That’s a really important time to feel secure and safe,” Banfield-Norris maintains. “And that’s when your womanhood starts,” Smith notes. “And that’s when she lost her security,” Banfield-Norris adds. “My mother was her backbone.” READ MORE: Jada Pinkett Smith Appears